What role does fear play in your life?

It is true that fear is a universal emotional response that every human will experience, but it is only real if you choose to acknowledge it.  It can dictate what we do and rob us of our confidence. We can either control fear or allow it to control us. So what do you fear the most? The future perhaps, or that the worst will happen, commitment, change, loneliness, being inadequate, or do you just feel lost and feel as if you don’t have a sense of direction in your own life.

Fear sometimes can be the wrong use of imagination where you create exaggerated outcomes for any situation for an event that has not even happened yet. So in essence fear alters your sense of perspective.  When broken down the acronym of fear translates to false evidence appearing real. It appears real because it is indeed a perception.

So what role does fear play in your life? For some people fear actually can be a false positive. It is actually a motivator that pushes them outside of their comfort zone and for others fear is a mechanism that leaves them in a paralyzed state of mind where they psychoanalyze everything and live a life of stagnation because decisions are rarely made.

Fear goes hand in hand with trust and your personal truths about life. Personal truths are your beliefs and life’s experiences. They mold how you perceive the future. Fear is a mindset. So if you have had positive experiences in your life you are most likely going to have a positive mindset and it would be the same if you would have had several negative experiences. You would proceed through life with caution, so you are more likely to have a negative mindset because your exposure to positive life events are few and far between. People adhere to what is comfortable to them. So when we do not understand something, and there is no clear path we tend to distrust and fear the future. New experiences can be scary if we do not approach them with the right mindset.

What justifies your fear? And how long will you allow it to control your life? What if you stepped out on faith and decided to eliminate your fears? How would that make you feel?

It is true that our life experiences molds our thought processes and our thoughts shape our futures because the future is guided by decisions.

Indecision is a form of self abuse.-Stacia Pierce 

You can not conquer what you are not willing to confront.-Mike Humes 

Indecision is an option, but it leads you back to square one, so it doesn’t serve any type of purpose. Indecision is a lie that you tell yourself. You feel that if you don’t make a decision then you don’t have to face the fear. That is so far from the truth because fear is everlasting unless you take the time to understand it.

Here is the face the fear formula.

1. Decide to have the courage to understand your fears and start to address them one by one until you can breathe with ease.
2. Learn to understand that fear is not a permanent staple in your life unless you make it. So yes, it is a choice that you make to be either fearless or fearful. You have the power to adhere to it or not.
3. Ask someone to help you face your fears so that you are not tackling it alone.
4. Connect with an accountability partner that is sensible and non-judgmental who will allow you to talk about your feelings in a safe environment.
5. Don’t be so hard on yourself. All of your feelings are valid. You just have to learn to choose which feelings you will allow to govern your life.

Your Business Systems Strategist

Wendy Nicole Anderson