“No” allows you to discover new ways of thinking, doing business and pursuing your goals. In other words, “No” offers a new perspective that allows you to have a pure evaluation of your expectations of the outcome. It heightens your interest level as to why you didn’t get a YES, and it prompts you to look inwards.
This new opportunity activates inspiration for you to become solution-oriented so that the next time you ask for what you desire, you walk away with a YES or a reflective mindset versus a defeated mindset.
Opportunity is available to those who seek it.
Allow me to break this down..
Let’s say that you had ten theories as to how your widget, gadget, service or idea would help your ideal client, but you never present your concept in fear of objection. Why? Because you were over critical of yourself and just assumed, everything wouldn’t pan out.
Result…
You miss out on the opportunity to perfect your craft because you have no real data, feedback or evidence that it works. Ideas are progressive when tested, clarified, and manifested.
The only way, to thrive in business, is to allow people to experience your theory. That comes from trial and error. If you are never seen, you or your ideas will never be considered because you have made yourself obsolete. You simply didn’t give people a chance to consider you.
Why? Because you stopped at “NO” or the fear of “NO” not fully understanding that it is a tool designed to help you grow.
“NO” also keeps you safe from wasting your time from working with people who don’t share your vision. It allows you to shift gears so that you consider your options from an objective point of view.
Sometimes when we are working on our goals we are too close to them, and we might not always ask ourselves the right questions to get the result that is needed to make our idea or project work.
So “NO” is a temperature check not a rejection notice.
Instead of getting bent out of shape the next time you hear the word “NO” just think about what lessons it could afford you. Here are a few suggestions that I recommend you implement the next time the word “No” puts you into a tailspin.
- Run your idea by three people who you admire and have a proven track record of success. Don’t skimp on the details. Tell them exactly how you pitched your idea to the person that said, “NO” to your idea and then tell them how you closed the conversation with the person. This will allow someone else to analyze your attempt to win a YES. Then give you unbiased feedback on two things: (1) Your interaction/verbiage while pitching your idea and (2) It allows them to ask you questions about your idea so that they can give you honest feedback about your concept.
- Don’t take it personal when someone tells you “NO.”
- Think about who else would find value in your idea and then go to social media and spread your concept like wildfire. But make sure you do it in an organized fashion. Create a survey asking open-ended questions and closed-ended questions regarding your idea. People tend to give detailed feedback when they write. This activity will allow you to take a healthy look at how the marketplace is responding to what you want to offer and then make the necessary changes. The more visibility you get, the more opportunities you will receive.
“No” is a change agent. Nothing more or nothing less. It allows you to consider the possibilities of what is next. It is meant to propel you forward not keep you stuck.
Your Business Systems Strategist
Wendy Nicole Anderson